I Just Want To Be A Good Dad

My daughter is now 9 and despite a long court case, nothing much has changed. For 12 days every fortnight I am a hard-working, broken-hearted person and I cannot find anything in the UK to make me happy.

For the two days every fortnight that I get to spend with my daughter, I am a happy, proud and confident person, a total contrast to my days without her.

Yesterday I gazed out the window watching fireworks and was really missing my angel but I cannot call her, she doesn’t call me and knowing she is only a mile away hurts like hell.

My ex has hurt me for years on end and she seems relentless in erasing me from our daughter’s life and I am reduced to nothing more than a broken-hearted dad that battles on for justice in the courts, so that someone will make my ex encourage our daughter to see me as an equal parent and let me be a part of her life, good times and bad.

I have alot to give and alot to teach her but the only people she gets to see is her mothers’ friends and family, not a true representation of her whole family, which to me is abuse and falls under the title of parental alienation. This is the act of one parent trying to stop meaningful contact with the other parent.

It is time to stand up and make family laws fairer to stop child abuse being carried out and to promote shared parenting in the family courts so broken Britain can start to be repaired for the good of our communities.

How Can This Woman Get Away With Child Abuse And Be Funded By Taxpayers Money?

After three years in court it would not surprise me if the cost to taxpayers and the government so far is at least £100,000 but where has it got me, in terms of contact with my daughter and stopping the abuse being carried out by her mother?

The sad answer is not far!

Nobody disputes the fact that I am a good father, even the mother doesn’t deny this, but being a good dad doesn’t mean a thing in the eyes of the law. If a mother decides that she doesn’t want you to see your child, the law is not on a fathers’ side in the UK and it is a sad tale of despair and pain for thousands of dads, leaving selfish, abusive women to continue their abuse on the innocent children caught up in this senseless, selfish battle.

I pay for my court fees and legal advice but my ex is funded by legal aid, which is disgusting considering the fact that shje has no grounds for denying me the shared parenting I am asking for. What kind of country, system or legal system would finance one parent from alienating the other parent from their own blood child?

It truly is unbelievable in a country like Great Britain, that you c an be separated from your children, alienated by the children’s mother and then she gets finance to fight you for years through the courts, to abuse a child. What kind of sick, cruel legal system would allow this to happen?

The answer as always is money! Solicitors intentionally inflame situations and advise the mother in a course which is nowhere near in the best interests of the children and then you have the judges who have the power, but lack the common sense and guts to stop these evil mothers and letting the dads see their own children in a equal and just way.

There is a growing movement in the UK that is growing increasingly frustrated and impatient and is starting to take matters into their own hands, to stop this cruel, state-sanctioned child abuse happening to our innocent children. Parental alienation is acknowledged and punished in other countries, so why can’t we act now and stamp it out here?

New Fathers For Justice Protest May 29th 2010

On Saturday May 29th, New Fathers For Justice will be doing an awareness/fundraise demo in Bristol, followed by our “FATHERS VIGIL OF LAWS” protest outside David Law’s MP’s house.

Bristol awareness starts 11:00 Broadmead, Bristol.

After two hours, we go to Law’s house to set up our “Justice Tent” and purple flags. Please bring your superhero… costumes.

If you wish to come, please send “Captain Equality” a message on the email below.

This is one of a few precursor mini demos in the run up to our “CARRY ON CAMPING DEMO” in Witney on July 24th.

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How Loving My Daughter So Much Has Cost Me So Much Pain

I have adored my daughter since she was born and it has undoubtedly made me a better person in general.

When I used to drop my daughter back to her mother, she would cry and want to stay with me. Not because her mother was a bad mother, because she wasn’t, but I believe it was because I idolised her and because we had so much fun together.

Somehow, for the past 2+ years I have been demonised and her mother, in her eyes is a saint.

Fathers And Childrens Rights

Why should any legal system deny a father the right to spend equal time with his son or daughter?

With the growing problems in society today it is clear that fathers rights and childrens rights are being overlooked, which is destroying the family values that childen require, to grow up with a balanced opinion and stability.

Parental Alienation is destroying our children’s future

Christmas and Snowy conditions are prime time for Dads to have great fun with their children and provide a stable environment for the children.

Unfortunately, due to parental alienation or PAS this does not happen. When parents allow their own feelings to cloud what is right or wrong for their children, it can become child abuse, which can later affect the emotional stability of the child.

Parental Alienation And The Damage Caused To Children

Parental alienation has been widely accepted as a term used to explain the brainwashing or conditioning of children by a resident parent (usually the mother) whereby they persuade the child against contact with the non-resident parent or persuade the child not to be enthusiastic about contact with the non-resident parent or their new partner.

Being on the receiving end of parental alienation is not pleasant thing. Since the birth of my daughter I have had to battle with the mother to be considered as an equal parent, but eight years on I am still battling to be acknowledged as a valued parent.

My ex-partner (mother of our daughter) never had a proper father as he split from his wife and never kept in proper contact and I personally think that this has a had a knock-on effect, because my daughter’s mother seems to think that I am not an important part of our child’s life and this is very saddening for both me and our daughter.

Too often I witness parents that do not seem to care enough about their children and it saddens me to know that I am willing to give my heart and soul to make my daughter’s life more meani9ngful, yet I am constantly battling with her mother just to be treated as an equal.

Birthday Weekend With Daughter Cancelled Despite Court Order

My court order has now been broken for the third weekend.

I went to my daughter’s birthday party at McDonalds and when I asked my daughter’s mother what time I could pick her up, she replied “you know you haven’t got here and I’m not discussing it!”  Now, bear in mind this is my alternating weekend which has been in place for almost one year.

She seems insistent on alienating me from my daughter’s life, which can only harm our daughter as we have a great bond, but she still keeps trying to brainwash her and you can visibly see my daughter is uncomfortable when I and her mother are near each other, it is such a shame as our job is to teach and protect our child.

Yesterday was meant to be the day I took my daughter to choose her new bike for her birthday, instead I spent the day upset and confused, this is now the third weekend that my daughter’s mother has cancelled, despite having a court order stating they were my weekends.

Where are my child’s rights?
Why is parental alienation not stamped out?
When will father’s rights be enforced?

School Sports Day Made Difficult By Alienating Mother

Today was my daughter’s school sports day and thankfully the weather was perfect, not too hot, just right

As usual the only problem was that my daughter’s mother had her boyfriend there and he was constantly in my face and trying to compete in being closest to my daughter whilst photographing her doing her sports.

Now, it has been 3 years since all this started and im slowly being able to cope with mentally the situation, but I have never seen any other child or child’s mother subject their children to such a situation at our our daughetrs school, which is obviously uncomfortable for all concerned.

The most distressing part of the day was the Father’s race. A teacher tunred round and asked if I was going to join in and I said only if my daughter wants me to. My daughter turned round and said she wanted me to and I could see my ex and her boyfriend looking at me from the corner of my eye.

I agreed and went over to the rest of the dads, who were already lined up.

As I got to the starting line, my ex’s boyfriend came over and joined in, purely because I had. Now, this is not rational or adult behaviour, as this is obviously making it more difficult for my daughter and it appears to me that this was an intentional action just to wind me up. There is a long history of parental alienation and it is clear to me that my ex wants me to be out of my daughter’s life and thinks I am not important for her.

My ex’s boyfriend is a student and is 14 years younger than me and 9 years younger than my ex.  I have had enough of this childish situation and I only wiosh that I knew a way to deal with this guy and my ex, they clearly have no respect for me being a father and do not care about my daughter’s best interest, as these situations, which happen everytime an important event occurs, cause even more friction to a nasty situation where there is no line of communication between me and my daughter’s mother.

How can I deal with this situation in the long run, I am really struggling??

I Need Advice – Am I A Bad Father?

I never write personal blogs like this, but I actually need help and for once in my life I am asking for some help and advice.

Today, my 7 year daughter turned up at my doorstep clinging to her mother saying “I don’t want to see you Daddy, I want to stay with mummy”. I squatted down and calmly said “why not darling” what is it?

To give you some background. Monday  just gone (June 8th I was told by my ex that my daughter was invited, by her best friend, to a Holy Communion in a nearby church.

I responded by saying that it was my day with her on Sunday and that I should be allowed to take her to the church on Sunday. I acknowledge the parents might know our situation and be reluctant to see me as it has been 2 years since I have been allowed to pick up my daughter from school.

There were many email communications throughout the week between myself and her solicitor as she was only offering an overnight Friday in return to taking 2 Sundays away from me (my only day to spend REAL quality time with her).

Today  she turned up and said “if you had agreed to what our daughter wanted then everything would be ok”.

Seriously, am I a bad father for insisting I should be able to take her to her best friends’ Holy Communion.  I do understand that my ex may be friends with our daughter’s best friends’ parents, but surely if it is my court ordered day to be with her, they can just ask me to take her.

Today is the first day I have really questioned |if I should have had a child. My best achievement in life is my daughter and I have always been there and I will always be there. But to experience what I did today, my whole world has been shattered into tiny pieces as my whole reason for feeling a better person, does not even want tom spend time with me, after a hard, 2 year battle just to get access back.

What have I done wrong?

What am I doing wrong?

How have I had this happen to me when my child is my world?