January 19, 2010
I have adored my daughter since she was born and it has undoubtedly made me a better person in general.
When I used to drop my daughter back to her mother, she would cry and want to stay with me. Not because her mother was a bad mother, because she wasn’t, but I believe it was because I idolised her and because we had so much fun together.
Somehow, for the past 2+ years I have been demonised and her mother, in her eyes is a saint.
January 15, 2010
Why should any legal system deny a father the right to spend equal time with his son or daughter?
With the growing problems in society today it is clear that fathers rights and childrens rights are being overlooked, which is destroying the family values that childen require, to grow up with a balanced opinion and stability.
January 8, 2010
Christmas and Snowy conditions are prime time for Dads to have great fun with their children and provide a stable environment for the children.
Unfortunately, due to parental alienation or PAS this does not happen. When parents allow their own feelings to cloud what is right or wrong for their children, it can become child abuse, which can later affect the emotional stability of the child.
October 27, 2009
Despite efforts by FNF (Families Need Fathers), a government-backed father’s rights organisation, there is still gross injustice in the family law courts when it comes to separated fathers and their rights in seeing their own children.
Slow progress has been made over the past few years but much more needs to be done to protect our children’s rights from being neglected.
To support children’s rights and father’s rights visit http://www.fnf.org.uk
October 27, 2009
Parental alienation has been widely accepted as a term used to explain the brainwashing or conditioning of children by a resident parent (usually the mother) whereby they persuade the child against contact with the non-resident parent or persuade the child not to be enthusiastic about contact with the non-resident parent or their new partner.
Being on the receiving end of parental alienation is not pleasant thing. Since the birth of my daughter I have had to battle with the mother to be considered as an equal parent, but eight years on I am still battling to be acknowledged as a valued parent.
My ex-partner (mother of our daughter) never had a proper father as he split from his wife and never kept in proper contact and I personally think that this has a had a knock-on effect, because my daughter’s mother seems to think that I am not an important part of our child’s life and this is very saddening for both me and our daughter.
Too often I witness parents that do not seem to care enough about their children and it saddens me to know that I am willing to give my heart and soul to make my daughter’s life more meani9ngful, yet I am constantly battling with her mother just to be treated as an equal.
October 24, 2009
I’m sitting at the airport on my way to visit my parents who moved abroad 4 years ago and as usual I am missing my daughter.
I have a life; several growing businesses, many passions and a girlfriend with children of her own. Yet still I sit here and think of my beautiful angel that means the world to me.
Today is her mother’s birthday and I kindly (maybe stupidly) dropped my daughter off early so that she could spend more time with her mother, knowing fully that the mother would never do the same for me.
My daughter loves my parents (her grandparents) but when I asked her this morning, she said that she would not want to go with me if her mother allowed it.
Despite the fact that my daughter enjoys time with me, my girlfriend and her grandparents, she is continuously being coersed or brainwashed into thinking otherwise.
It is terribly sad to see that her mothers parental alienation tactics are actually working.
I know for a fact that she loves the time spent with me and with my girlfriend and her 2 children, but at the very mention of seeing them, she gets uneasy and upset and she does not know why, which is very saddening to witness.
This poor innocent child has been subjected to jealousy, parental alienation and been at the centre of a nasty court battle for far too long, but her mother continues to act against her best interests and I constantly feel like I should just try and remove my feelings for my own daughter, but this just is not possible.
I adore my child and why should it have to be any other way?
October 21, 2009
At my last court review hearing, although I received increased contact which is a positive step towards my requested contact schedule, it was made apparent to me that the view of the legal system and of the social worker attending the hearing, was that midweek contact between my daughter and me may not be a good idea and be disruptive for my daughter.
Since when and how is it disruptive for a child to be brought up with two loving parents that have their best interests at heart.
Before contact was denied and the court process started I used to see my daughter midweek and she loved it. I just do not understand why children’s rights and children’s bests interests are not being addressed properly in the UK. I simply cannot see how any damage can be done by blood parents wanting to be more involved in their own child’s lives, surely any child would wish for such a thing?
If common sense were used in family courts and judges were given the proper powers to act on these issues, then maybe more serious issues would be dealt with, such as parental alienation, coaching, brainwashing or whatever else you want to call it.